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I also have friends who don't share their different friend circles, for fear of social miscegenation.Also, everyone has had or been a "bad friend" at some point in their lives, right?I'll be "friendly," but a real friendship requires some level of honesty and ease.I know some people are capable of masking their true feelings, a la Joey Potter, but that's just not in my nature.When I meet someone, I can size him up in about 30 seconds and decide whether or not we will ever see each other naked.If I'm attracted to a guy, then I really can't befriend him.Attraction is also the feeling of being in sync with someone.
A boyfriend is actually a friend that you'd like to get kinky with as soon as possible.(One sees this "friends first" business all the time as the headline in women's personals ads on singles sites.) I mean, who's gonna actually be friends with someone, much less court them, when the first thing they do is start dictating the terms of the relationship?(A: the weasel — the guy with no other options who hangs around under false pretenses hoping to eventually be rewarded for playing by the rules.) I think it's all this disingenuousness -- maybe it's simple confusion, maybe it's just a bad euphemism or a cop-out -- which leads to "friends first" not working so well.Attraction must always be present and must always come prior to any romantic connection.It doesn't have to be physical, but I think there needs to be something about that person that turns you on.
Then later, as some times goes by, suddenly, you begin to notice all these fantastic qualities about them that you didn't know existed, and boom! You're looking for your friend to get ahead by looking out for his best interest. Some people are on their best behavior until they cross the threshold. But your true nature will surface when you're a person's friend first.